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Stout Drinker
10 Apr 2009, 11:51 AM
A coworker and friend of mine is from Venezuela. He's 40 years old and has been separated from his soon to be ex for over a year. He actually doesn't seem to be in a huge hurry for them to finalize the divorce but it is over and there is not contact with each other.

Religiously he is Catholic but doesn't go to church unless he is back home with his family in Venezuela. He says he doesn't really believe in religion but he thinks life has another purpose. I could see him going to some sort of woo belief or just being apatheistic.

Well he met a woman online who is from Columbia. She flew up here and is currently staying with him for a month. They are doing all the expected things when people who met online do when they are attacted and meet in person. He is quite smitten with her.

He told me yesterday though that she didn't want to have sex until easter. So no sex on Holy Thursday, Good Friday, or Holy Saturday.

I found that to be the funniest thing.

1) They are not married.
2) He is in fact still legally married to someone else.

If you are religious I would get not wanting to have sex period. But the idea that its ok to have sex on one day but not another for religous reasons when a consistent application of your religous beliefs would pleclude them from sex all times is quite ridiculous

I know all christians pick and choose which christian principles are important. Divorce ok (even though jesus said it wasn't) Homosexuality bad (even though Jesus was silent). Not many sell what they have and give to poor or really even believe in turning the other cheek.

But if they are ok with having extra maritial sex why does the Easter Triduum matter? Its genuinely odd to me.
Monad
10 Apr 2009, 11:55 AM
Maybe "Jesus has risen" has other connotations :)
Worldtraveller
10 Apr 2009, 12:34 PM
Make sure you wish him a happy dead jew on a stick day. :D
Monad
10 Apr 2009, 12:35 PM
Make sure you wish him a happy dead jew on a stick day. :D

I want a tee shirt with that on :evil:
sohy
10 Apr 2009, 01:51 PM
If I had to try and explain this, I'd base my explanation on the weirdness that is the part of religion which inspires guilt. Catholics are especially attracted to guilt. Sacrifice is also frequently a big deal in religion. I'd say that guilt and the desire to sacrifice becomes especially strong during particular holy days. On plain old non holy days, it's so much easier to sin. The woman is afraid that if she has immoral sex on the holy days, she won't enjoy it because of her guilt. So, by sacrificing sex on the holy days, she sort of makes up for the sin she is planning at a later date. :D

Don't try and make sense out of that. Religion is not based on sense.
BioBeing
10 Apr 2009, 04:24 PM
Don't try and make sense out of that. Religion is not based on sense.

This.

This should just be the default answer for anything to do with religion.
DMB
10 Apr 2009, 05:01 PM
In the middle ages sex between married couples was forbidden on a lot of special holy days. Maybe it was a primitive kind of birth control.
Zebulon
10 Apr 2009, 05:31 PM
I know a woman who is a devout Catholic. She won't use birth control because that is sinful. But she has no problem with sex outside of marriage, and has had three babies out of wedlock. Go figure. :dunno:
Ray Moscow
11 Apr 2009, 09:35 AM
If it were rational, it wouldn't be woo-woo.
Berthold
11 Apr 2009, 11:40 AM
In the middle ages sex between married couples was forbidden on a lot of special holy days. Maybe it was a primitive kind of birth control.
Article (http://www.beliefnet.com/Faiths/Christianity/Lent/Giving-Up-Sex-For-Lent.aspx)
Alex
11 Apr 2009, 01:21 PM
Doesn't the catholic's feelings of shame and guilt about sex go right back to the symbolic adventures of Adam and Eve? St Augustine believed that sexual intercourse was sinful and is represented by the "forbidden fruit" in the Garden of Eden. Sex is mixed up with disobedience in original sin. From Eve's point of view, the sin was punished by her pain in giving birth.
Stout Drinker
11 Apr 2009, 11:24 PM
Doesn't the catholic's feelings of shame and guilt about sex go right back to the symbolic adventures of Adam and Eve? St Augustine believed that sexual intercourse was sinful and is represented by the "forbidden fruit" in the Garden of Eden. Sex is mixed up with disobedience in original sin. From Eve's point of view, the sin was punished by her pain in giving birth.


I think there is something to that. The shame and guilt of sex. However they are having sex anyway. Maybe because Dead Jew on a Stick day is especially important for Hispanic Catholics it would be more pronounced that day.

I just found it a funny disconnect.